Saturday, July 28, 2007

Keeping it simple

Earlier this week, the daily entry in the little book One Day at a Time in Al-Anon offered me a good reminder.

As the mother of an actively using meth addict with a 1-year-old baby, my life can be full of uncertainty and turmoil—although they’re 2,000 miles away. In times of trouble, when my mind is racing, it can be hard to slow down, think through what’s happening and change my focus. But it helps to focus on one idea or concept that can bring quiet and serenity.

Often, I try to concentrate on gratitude. Listing those things for which I’m thankful, either mentally or on paper, focuses my thoughts and gives me a more positive outlook almost instantaneously.

When I’m trying to make a decision--especially one I’ve prayed about--the Al-Anon concept “Keep it simple” is an excellent reminder. It helps clear my mind so I can receive God’s guidance in the situations at hand.

A scripture that has been especially comforting to me throughout the past 14 years is Psalm 62:5-6—Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation, he is my fortress—I will not be shaken.

I’m always interested in how others cope with their times of trouble. What have you found to be helpful?

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The Discovering Alcoholic said...

Once you know that there is very little YOU can do to make someone else sober or to accept your help, the key is to concentrate on making yourself strong enough to be able to help when and if they ask for it.

You may be powerless to change them, but when the time comes, this does not mean you will be powerless to help. Knowing that your are capable of help is the best solace for one dealing with the addiction of a loved one.

Of course, this includes gathering the knowledge that allows you to discern the difference between enablement and recovery assistance.

Alene said...

Thanks for your wise words. Yes, I learned years ago that I am not able to change anyone but myself. And heck, I'm enough of a project to keep myself busy the rest of my life! lol But your point about being ready to help in a healthy and positive way when the time comes is a good one. Living on the other side of the country and now, not communicating with the relapsed addict, help take enabling out of the equation.